To say the way things are is not a criticism, nor is it controlling. It is simply philosophical grist for objective contemplation, and that is happiness.Gary Childress wrote: ↑Thu Feb 23, 2023 2:34 pmI just want to be happy. If happiness appears impossible for me, then I just want to be able to voice my frustration and dissatisfaction. That's all. I have not said that it's in any way your fault that I have mental illness. So why does it concern you if I point the finger at the one who allegedly created this world and me in it? Leave the mentally ill alone. If you have nothing to complain about or choose not to do so, then good for you. Enjoy the chance to feel good. However, if feeling good can only be achieved by controlling the reactions of others around you, then you'll be likely to join us if you're not careful. Save yourself some frustration and just let us be.
To say the way things are does not imply they are wrong. They are just the way they are, and the way things are has implications expecially when one has lived long enough to see things weren’t always the way they are now.
These days folks find specialness in a victim self-concept, in the identity of victim. In the past, men did not consider themselves victims. In the past men had a self-concept that was more philosophically aligned with the view found in Kipling’s poem, If.
We all have challenges of various sorts but challenges don't make a victim.