vegetariantaxidermy wrote: ↑Tue Jul 12, 2022 6:42 am
Astro Cat wrote: ↑Tue Jul 12, 2022 6:07 am
vegetariantaxidermy wrote: ↑Tue Jul 12, 2022 6:02 am
It's too overwhelming. I don't even know where to begin.. So I won't.
I don’t know why it would be overwhelming, but that’s OK. I don’t think anyone has to memorize what each letter stands for or anything, LOL. I was just answering the question. It’s all good!
That's not really what I meant. Humans have been doing horrible things to each other for as long as there have been humans. Women have been treated pretty shittily too, but I can't say that I have experienced that personally, so I don't feel the need to tell people I 'belong to the female community' and get all 'offended-on-behalf-of' every other female on the planet. I had a lesbian great aunt. Lived with her partner for 40+ years. Both were extremely successful women. No one ever mentioned their lesbianism (is that a word?), least of all themselves, it was just obvious when they only had one bedroom lol. It was never mentioned, not out of 'kindness' but because no one actually GAVE A SHIT. It wasn't relevant to anything or anyone except themselves.
Ah that’s the dream, the day when nobody gives a shit.
I don’t think you should feel like you have to be part of any community (many LGBT+ people don’t, many women don’t, etc.), so there’s no worries there.
I do think things like communities are important though: if women hadn’t come together in the US (using history that I know here), women still wouldn’t be able to vote. Women had to lobby to be able to open credit cards in their own names as recently as the 1970’s.
So, I get not wanting to think of oneself as part of a group, let alone one defined by something that
shouldn’t matter, but I also get people that do feel like they are part of such groups, or talk about the thing that doesn’t matter (whether it is being a woman, or being gay, or whatever) as a way to push back against problems people are still facing today. Both make sense to me.