Scope of sight is everything. Many enlightened beings have discovered how to transcend suffering, through a broader way of seeing. When we focus on pain and suffering, it becomes our world. When we lift our gaze to see much more broadly, our experience can be transformed in increasingly unfathomable ways. And the more one learns to expand their gaze, the more efficient and automatic it happens. It's not a matter of ignoring an irritation. It's simply about gazing more broadly than the irritation... and then the irritation is no longer the focus. That can change everything.
Like a little kid who is screaming over some upset... but then notices the ice cream truck. The upset is no longer the focus, and it ceases to have a hold on the little kid. He did NOT deny or ignore, he just noticed that there was much more available, and his world changed.
If someone put us here to suffer, that's not only sick... it's idiotic. What a total waste of such a magnificent creation! I tend to think we're here for entertainment... not for someone else's, but our own! However we decide to do it, hopefully we figure out that no one is torturing us... it's just a really convincing set of moments of infinite possibilities. What do we create with that?