the feminist i discussed this with sees this sexism as being as bad as the more overt sexism that you can find in, say, men who beat their wives
What annoy me about some kind of feminist, is that they make this kind of insulting and biased comparisons between very different things.
I think it is much more harmful to call someone that open a door, a sexist, and a abuser, that to actually open the door…
What also annoy me, is that some of this kind, only speak about the aspect of things that could hurt women, and never how it could hurt men. It give me the feeling that for them, the only thing that really count is women. And honestly i think some are plainly sexist. (maybe a minority)
You could see these kind of things as a man thinking a women don’t have some capacities(it would be pretty ridiculous for the door example), but you could also see it as some kind of duty put on you only because you are a man, and she is a women, and people around will think you are rude and unmannerly if you don’t do it.
It is not only about what the women is able to do, but what you should do for them, because they are important, more than you are.
I think it hurt also man, and how some could see themselves, as some disposable, for the more beautiful, good, and important sex.
It is bad for some, and imposed on them by social norms, or what they think of social norms, and you should not call them sexist, or worst, criminal, for doing it.
Also some just help other because they are nice, for the only sake of helping other, and this have nothing to do with capacity or dominance, or being a woman or a man. And they will get hurt by this kind of feminist.