Of course they enjoy your free spirit...you are a whore they don't have to pay. The men view you as a sex-object and nothing more. You have no self-respect and became a people pleaser along time ago if any of what you say if half true. You do what you want...well so do I...how can you call me a liar when you yourself are one? Too who? Yourself.Lacewing wrote: ↑Mon Aug 06, 2018 11:43 pmAs high-maintenance as I think you are, I do have compassion for your delusional states... so I'll answer a few questions to set you straight in regard to me...
For someone who is claims to the importance of the "universe" you do seem a little picky and choosy about what right and wrong is rather than accepting things for what they are.
Yes, those are men I entered into relationships with (aside from the wild years of my late teens and early twenties).
And how did that work out? Or do you just use men for sex? The logic seems to have a double standard.
In each case, neither of us slept around while we shared a relationship. Yes, I was married once -- and I see no need to do that sort of thing again. I'm able to love and be committed without a marriage.
So you never slept around while in a relationship, but when the relationship ended then the next person you slept with you were in a relationship with?
Actually you can't love or be committed without a marriage...you can't even keep a relationship according to your history.
Are you unaware that relationships end for all kinds of reasons, and people can still love and appreciate each other? My partners would probably be happy to get back together. I had my reasons. There are lots of chapters in life. I wish them well.
Actually if you loved eachother you would still be together. Above you say you are able to keep a committed relationship but here you claim you left for personal reasons (which goes back to the "I sleep with who I want")...so which one is it?
Despite your many absurd conclusions and accusations: I do not sleep around. I am simply a joyful and spirited person. Yes, I am open to finding a soulful, wise man with the qualities I treasure. There appear to be a lot of numb and stunned men out there -- totally self-absorbed/consumed with their "stuff" -- perhaps traumatized by this shift we're going through. My heart goes out to them, but I'm not interested in trudging along on some unconscious path with them. I want to go forward, not backwards.
Actually you are a hypocrite and have no heart...half the "fuck you's" only prove how miserable you are when put to question. You are a fake, nothing more... Your logic is merely hyper-relativism.
If you said: "
My male friends (who are in relationships, themselves) enjoy and support my authentic and passionate spirit. Perhaps I'm able to explore this as I do, because I am single right now. It's very freeing -- and it inspires the people around me. You do not appreciate me because I'm busy hurling profanities at you. I do that because you twist things into ugly lies and/or you say absurd things that take too much effort to straighten out. It's really unfortunate. I wish you happiness... and I'm sorry I said you probably don't deserve a good relationship. I hope you find one that can show you how awesome real love and connection are, and how sweet and wonderful a woman can be when you're not grating on her.
You don't love anything...an orgasm is the deepest thing you can feel and that is not "connection"...anyone can have them...the animal kingdom proves this. Love is being committed to a person through the best and the worst...and whatever "personal reasons" you leave only proves how self-ish you are. Now if the man was hitting you or some serious form of abuse...that is one thing, but not all men are abusive and the high rate of "failures" you have in your relationships only proves something does not add up.
"Free spirited" means to you:
1) Fucking who I want, so you can't blame men for doing the same.
2) Having the world form who you are, so you can't blame the men for their cruelty to you.
3) Being a victim, so you can't blame men for making you feel like one if they feel the same.
You are a victim, and instead of showing yourself respect you gave up along time ago. The simple truth is you are shallow, not because of a series of messes ups...but because love is real sacrifice, regardless of personal cost, and from what is appears to me men are just sex-objects to you because a few made you feel like a sex-object.
It is a circular regress.
Now you would say "fuck you john", but then you would realize it makes you look like the bad guy...so you have to say "I wish the best and I forgive you"....fickle.