Lacewing wrote: ↑Tue Sep 03, 2019 1:33 pm
Feeling "oneness" feels good. When I'm around people, I'm focused on their energy and spirit first and foremost. So maybe (in a way) I'm striving for all moments to be orgasmic with a sense of oneness.
I can tell all about Lacewing's sex-life just by reading a handful of her posts. The passage above is a case in point.
Lacewing, you tell me if I've got it right or wrong, OK ?
OK, so, Lacewing is into Tantric sex because she's a New Ager (a member of the New Age movement). There are lots of different kinds of New Age Americans with lots of different beliefs. The New Age movement emerged in the 1970s , and is focused on Eastern spirituality, mysticism, esotericism, religious metaphysics and so on; so it's all a bit WOO. Though if you want a WOO-free way experience what drives New Agers to be New Agers, just drop a 500 mcg tablet of LSD-25, some mescaline, peyote, or any other psychedelic drug and you'll soon get the picture.
New Age is a very mixed bag, an eclectic collection of different kinds of people with different spiritual (and mystical, etc.) beliefs, though it is possible to identify a core of fundamental doctrines that ground the movement, and the most primal tenet, I think, is Monism. Monism is the view that all things in the universe emanated from an original primal oneness.
To continue. Lacewing believes in a holistic form of divinity that imbues all of the universe and ourselves. It is - this divinity: an "Ocean of Oneness", a "Sacred Unity"; "One Essence", a "Primal Stream.". As for divinity, divinity is seen as consists of love, it is, in turn, a life-force whose essence is creativity and it is also a form of energy. Lacewing also believes that we are on the cusp of a wonderful new world order, namely, the (astrological) "Age of Aquarius", which amongst other things will bring an end to the brutal Western , male patriarchy that has oppressed, exploited and subjugated women for the past 2000 years. Harmony, Peace, Love, Enlightenment, Bliss, Understanding, Equality, Kindness, Agape, etc will also be hallmarks of the "Age of Aquarius."
Getting back to the issue of sex; In standard Western heterosexual sex what happens is an aroused male jumps onto his partner, insert his fine upstanding member into the "Holy of Holies", does the old in-out-in for a frantic 3 or 4 minutes, then ejaculates, rolls off, and falls asleep. It gives me pause for thought that he way animals like dogs and cats have sex is not very different at all. So, I would have to agree that conventional sex it is not the most spiritually uplifting of experiences, but its fun (while it lasts).
How Tantric sex works, in a nutshell ,is that you and your partner choose a lovemaking position from the Karma Sutra. The male then inserts his organ in his girlfriend's "snaggler", and, using various skills/techniques they learned from a Tantric sex instructor, prevent the male from ejaculating too soon. There is little physical body movement in Tantric sex, rather the emphasis is on an energetically-charged stillness. The upshot is that the couple are able to stay connected "as one", in a perfect divine communion and state of spiritual wholeness for several hours, or more if they like. With Tantric sex the end goal is not the male orgasm, it is about extending the time you are able to give and receive pleasure with your partner. The definition of Tantra is to weave, unify, entwine as one; this emphasis on wholeness and oneness perfectly complements the fundamental New Age belief in spiritual Monism. Sting, the former musician who played with the band "The Police",said he experiences many orgasms of bliss during 8 hour Tantric sex sessions with his current female partner.
So, that's what Lacewing does in terms of sex.
On a personal note, I've never tried Tantric sex myself (i.e. having sex without moving) but my girlfriend does it all the time.
I'm not really keen to try it either because, I mean, can you imaging someone as cool as Bruce Springsteen or Mick Jagger in his younger days) having Tantric sex ???
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