Invalid Artistic Solution, reread the thread and try again for the moral, likely will take you a few more readings.
And if your earliest memories are of Germany, then fine. My earliest memories are stuff like me climbing up cabinets to look for candy, or waking up in San Andreas with my mother in a single room apartment, or having fights with Mexicans over toys in the playground, flushing toilets and watching septic pipes explode feces outside in the middle of a residential neighborhood. (ohhhh, California in the 80s)
Would doesn't actually operate off the principles of the movie Citizen Kane, anymore than it operates off liberal drivel. In the movie Citizen Kane, they made the whole movie about the search for what motivated the main character, a early 20th century newspaper tycoon, and they traced it back to a early memory (nearly), of his sled he had as a little boy, named Rosebud.... he was playing with it right before his mother gave him up for adoption, ripped his childhood sense of home, security, trust in motherhood to shreds.
What you are trying to say indirectly is my little pony is upyour rosebud.
Problem is, this is a childish regress, unwilling to face the problems holding you back so you can advance to better psychological stages. I'm not going to regress in the face of trauma or danger back to picking fights with Juan over who is going to ride a plastic tricycle, or start scaling cabinets in the Central Valley of California looking for the candies. In later years, around five, I can see trace ideas I regress to in my approach to life, such as running away constantly, jumping barb wire fences while still in diapers, falling off a highway overpass (was a story and a half tall, several in a row, kept hearing roars, thought a dragon was inside, so went in scared to face it. Instead I found a hobo's kit, and a highway system to another nearby community).
I can point to these later elements as aspects of personality, but it likely just indicates how early it formed for me. My earliest memories are not when core aspects of my personality started setting down in stone. It isn't the essence of who you are, cause dammit, you probably wasn't fully potty or bottled trained yet, and had little in terms of independence, going through predictable stages of psychological growth.
However, what you do make a excellent case for is the need to not give unicorns to little boys, cause we can now say in at least one case, it had a extremely damaging result.
Let me find a Citizen Kane trailer. Might be old enough it lost it's copyright.
It still is, but easy to find.
Anyway, the basic idea we tried to project was a regression to safety, or a stress free environment, where we felt most authentic. Reality it, no such place exists, and everything is out to kill you. It is like the Fire Planet on Season 3 of Lexx, when Prince was asked if if it was safe to go down the hole, and he said no.... and then asked if it was safe to stay put, and the answer was the same..... whole planet was literally hell.
A adult mindset is going to build up their own safety. As a community, of Americans we do this through strong police, strong military, to country the perceived threats we face. If you are European, it is by impossible to find social medical programs, that leech the military, and you ask America to defend you while hating them. For the rest of the world, you either fund a crappy military or you get invaded by someone with a less crappy military.
On the level of the individual or family, you should be seeking out safety and security, under conditions you can prosper. A lot of my days as a Cynic was learning the limits and barriers to this. What causes the police to snap on someone doing absolutely nothing wrong, versus them practically kowtowing to someone. What causes me to sleep snugly and secure vs wary and awake at night in the rough? A lot of it was a microcosm of my military experience, but not all. Some unique experience on the level of a solitary individual, in the rough or on the edge of society, and certainly different from the fears and worries of a house holder with family to support, especially young children. Dynamics are definitely going to differ, and most people can't afford to regress to their actions of their earliest memories, and going back to the roots of their personality type is kinda pointless, as they spent a lifetime building on it, and for most successfully.
Eventually you'll have to toss your baby bottle and safety blanket aside and grow up. World is a wicked, terrible place, and will seek without a doubt to harm you. Part of growing up is figuring out how to control that, and build a life against it worth living. For most, it must by default be a reproductive one. If it wasn't the case, humanity would die off. Our instincts are finely attuned to it. It is who we are more so than modern concerns for a sense of self or hendonism. It is a cascade that once started sends you down a pathway to fatherhood, parenting, disappointment in your children as they barely seem to pull off adulthood, then old age and death. That's how life works for the overwhelming majority, be it king or pauper.