What do men and women actually really want from each other?

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Dontaskme » Sun Sep 08, 2019 11:47 am

Lacewing wrote:
Sat Sep 07, 2019 4:27 pm
He made me laugh so hard... I loved it. There were people who would seek out his posts for entertainment. But some people took offense, and we know how that can squash creativity. I think he's still around sometimes...but he seems to mostly keep quiet. :cry:
I wasn't sure about him at first because one cannot tell who people really are by just going on what they write on a forum. But it wasn't until I was feeling really pissed off one day on the forum that I realised what a decent character Harbal actually was. I found that out one day when completely out of the blue quite unexpectedly I got a PM from him asking me if I was alright? ..that PM spoke volumes about the sort of person he really is. So he's on my christmas card list now LOL (just kidding :wink: I fucking hate christmas. :twisted:

Lacy, thanks for all your responses. The parlance in which we both define the human condition is similar. I agree with mostly everything you have said in reply to me. However!! :wink: I peronally don't think life is worth the addmission fee for a human, but that's just my opinion. A new topic on that subject could be started actually. I wonder if the subject topic ( Is being born worth it - or is it better to have never been born? ) would be worth talking about? :idea:

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Lacewing » Sun Sep 08, 2019 4:14 pm

Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 11:47 am
I peronally don't think life is worth the addmission fee for a human, but that's just my opinion. A new topic on that subject could be started actually. I wonder if the subject topic ( Is being born worth it - or is it better to have never been born? ) would be worth talking about? :idea:
Sounds good!

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Lacewing » Sun Sep 08, 2019 5:00 pm

Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 11:47 am
I wasn't sure about him at first because one cannot tell who people really are by just going on what they write on a forum. But it wasn't until I was feeling really pissed off one day on the forum that I realised what a decent character Harbal actually was. I found that out one day when completely out of the blue quite unexpectedly I got a PM from him asking me if I was alright? ..that PM spoke volumes about the sort of person he really is. So he's on my christmas card list now LOL (just kidding :wink: I fucking hate christmas. :twisted:
Harbal has a tender, caring heart (he might not appreciate me saying that), while he can also be a master at pinpointing absurdity and delivering it with skillful dry humor. The reactions and interaction that has evoked from people at times, has been hilarious. I have a real fondness for that about him.

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Dontaskme » Mon Sep 09, 2019 8:33 am

Lacewing wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 5:00 pm
Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 11:47 am
I wasn't sure about him at first because one cannot tell who people really are by just going on what they write on a forum. But it wasn't until I was feeling really pissed off one day on the forum that I realised what a decent character Harbal actually was. I found that out one day when completely out of the blue quite unexpectedly I got a PM from him asking me if I was alright? ..that PM spoke volumes about the sort of person he really is. So he's on my christmas card list now LOL (just kidding :wink: I fucking hate christmas. :twisted:
Harbal has a tender, caring heart (he might not appreciate me saying that), while he can also be a master at pinpointing absurdity and delivering it with skillful dry humor. The reactions and interaction that has evoked from people at times, has been hilarious. I have a real fondness for that about him.
I agree, which makes him very unique. And sometimes, people are not always what they appear to be, I have found this out so many times before. Someone who comes across as being way too pushy and full on with their lovely dovey affection for you even though they have never ever met you is a bit of a red flag to be wary of. That example has happened to me.

But the ironic thing about me being pissed off on this forum was that what I believed at the time to be why I was feeling pissed off, was due to Harbal's replies to my posts, so it's ironic that it was him who found it in his heart to one day PM me to ask me if I was alright. He couldn't have known it was his replies I was being pissed about. So it was as if he just had some general concern, which was a very humble thing to do. I really like and admire those qualities in people..it's rare.

No one has ever done that before...I responded saying yes I'm ok thanks, and no more communication ever followed, it was all so genuine and sweet.Now when ever Harbal posts here, my tummy hurts from laughing so much.

I don't think he realises how loved he is, or how funny he is.

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by frosteagle » Sun Sep 15, 2019 8:17 pm

Women and men want what they think they want until they don't, then they want what they think they want then... dot dot dot...

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Dontaskme » Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am

Other objects that appear separate from us are like movie screens to us that can give us entertainment, especially the animated objects.

Men and women, dog and cats and all other animated objects are how we here entertain ourselves, since there is nothing else to do here otherwise. Also, non-animate objects like tv's and ipads, iphones, and laptops are like movie screens too, they too entertain us, but only because there is the belief that the objects within the inanimate objects on the screen are animate objects.. :P

And just a thought came to this awareness here....women want men because women want babies, and men give women babies because men want women.. :lol: :lol: maybe? :roll: who knows what's going on in the mind of another, I guess we'll never really know, you know.
You cannot know another, you can only know yourself. We have to entertain ourselves somehow. For the human, a still mind is like a still wind.

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Re: What do men and women actually really want from each other?

Post by Lacewing » Sun Sep 22, 2019 4:53 pm

Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am
women want men because women want babies
That's not why I (or any women I know) want men. 8)
Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am
and men give women babies because men want women.
Okay that's cute...but too narrowly defined, of course.
Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am
You cannot know another, you can only know yourself.
Who knows? Maybe you can know another better than you can know yourself. :) Or maybe know neither.
Dontaskme wrote:
Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am
We have to entertain ourselves somehow.
As a friend of mine says "What else are we going to do with eternity?" He imagines that we go round and round, playing this out in all different ways, often with the same group of people.

I don't think of life/existence/awareness within this dream/reality/whatever as something to get beyond or escape. I don't think of it as a "lower state" or punishment or prison. It is a CHALLENGE, for sure, but that's part of the adventure of playing with unknown potential, with a limited set of parameters. How does one play the game? Having fun or not, seems based on attitude and sportsmanship. :) Is "winning" anything more than a momentary sense of accomplishment before looking for the next game? So why not keep playing?

I don't favor philosophies that want to negate everything to some point of non-play. As if nothingness or singleness is desired and superior somehow. As if all of this bounty of creativity and experience and interaction is inferior and despised. It's like turning up one's nose at a huge banquet table of delights, and then dying of starvation. If that's the way to a "god" or "complete awareness", then that god and awareness must be a delusion to deny so much.

What if playing is the point to everything?

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