Walker wrote: ↑Mon May 09, 2022 10:50 amLong ago I was with another person and we saw a homeless person who was in bad shape. I wondered aloud what it would be like to be that way. The person with me simply said,
“That would never happen to me.”
The fact is, it didn’t happen to her, and everything she did in life made certain it didn’t happen.
You say it could have happened to her? To say that is illogical. To say that is a fantasy. The fact that it did not happen, proves that it could not have happened. Why is this so?
Because she was an element of every situation she was in. Every crossroads she encountered, every thought and intent. Every element other than she*, in every situation she was in, was not enough either singly, or in combination with another element or elements, to alter her simple intent. Her simple intent was the single root from which her life grew. The root caused her to say that homeless person’s sad plight would never happen to her.
I have always known that to raise children so that they get what they want, and don’t get what they don’t want, you need to explain the cause and effect of imagined situations. You say, to get this, you do this thing, or you don’t do this other thing. You say, to prevent that, you do that thing, or you don’t do that other thing.
The how-to’s that you give to your children are personal for that individual, tailored to their proclivities. To not betray that and to speak in general terms, the father knows the son and the daughter completely. When you know the truth and tell them the truth when they are young and trust you, they will be equipped to foresee, to mitigate, and perhaps even create.
You have to influence them in that way when they are young. This is why the government wants control of pre-K.
And since you asked for something personal regarding “how-to,” I’ll tell you this. I have always addressed my children and grandchildren as “Sir,” and “Miss.” That has worked out just as I figured it would.
So that's just the long-winded way to answer your question, what would I do?
The short answer is: Transcend time.
* is "she" the correct pronoun, or should "her," be used?