It is a very interesting perspective on "love". The great irony of philosophy is that it is usually grounded on some form of unrequited love in one form or another.peacegirl wrote: ↑Tue Feb 12, 2019 10:53 pmIt changes everything, how we see ourselves, how we react to others, how we respect each other, etc., because the need for this prestige (which comes from deep-seated feelings of inferiority) will no longer be a factor in human relations.Nick_A wrote: ↑Tue Feb 12, 2019 8:32 pmWar and crime IMO are the natural results of our collective inability to respect differences in human "being." This respect has devolved into the artificial need for prestige defined by secular values. No amount of money will nullify the need for this devolved need. How would your system nullify the need for prestige or the social pecking order?peacegirl wrote: ↑Mon Feb 11, 2019 10:18 pm
You can’t look at this in a vacuum. The economic system presented would work because people would not have to save for a rainy day and trillions of dollars would be available for growth. When war and crime come to an end even more money will be available for all kinds of new businesses. I know how this must sound because our world is 180 degrees opposite from this new world.
It actually does solve the problem of relationships where so many people are seriously hurt by unrequited love. This is just an extension of the basic principle, Thou Shall Not Blame.Nick_A wrote:You can have a dozen men sitting around a table discussing what they believe is essential to bring about world peace and mutual respect. Then the cute waitress walks by serving drinks and shaking her behind and all of a sudden it is every man for himself. The struggle for prestige necessary to win the lady begins again. If your system has figured out how to transcend the acquired need for social prestige, your book will succeed in answering a basic question that has stumped educated BS artists since the beginning of psychology.
As you begin this chapter, a key fact must constantly be
borne in mind: No problem exists in man’s relations with
each other unless someone is being hurt in a concrete, not
imaginary, manner and it is the genuine hurt in romantic
relationships that this chapter is addressing. The first real and
concrete blow of the sexes is struck when a boy and girl are
encouraged and then rejected by the person with whom they have
fallen in love enough to desire marriage. More people have had their
heart broken and cut out with the knife of unrequited love than is
imaginable, and those who lose in this game are very unhappy
individuals because they have lost the very person they wanted to win.
I must remind the reader that our basic principle cannot prevent the
impossible. For example, it cannot prevent a girl from rejecting a boy
no matter how much he is in love when not to do so makes matters
worse for herself as would be the case if this necessitated that she
reject the boy who she is in love and who loves her, or that she rejects
the possibility of meeting someone with whom she could fall in love,
as much as she is now being loved.
In other words, not blaming your
lover for breaking your heart by leaving cannot undo the rejection,
just as not blaming the truck driver after an accident cannot prevent
what has already happened. But it can prevent the desire to take risks
that could get a boy and girl into this kind of situation where it is
necessary to reject the person who is in love with them, just as it
prevents them from desiring to take risks that lead to automobile
accidents. Premarital relations will come to a permanent end as well
as all adultery and divorce not because this is morally wrong and man
has decided at last to obey the Ten Commandments, but only because
we will be shown how to prevent our children’s hearts from being
broken by love that is not returned. To have loved and lost may be
better than never to have loved at all, but this is the lesser of two evils
and presupposes that there must always be a contest wherein someone
loses and gets hurt.
“But doesn’t there have to be losers when two or more people want
the same thing? In a hundred yard dash there is one winner, and the
rest are losers, and in a contest for one person, somebody has to
lose...”
“Providing there is a contest, but supposing there is none?”
“No contest? There has to be some kind of test. A girl doesn’t
marry anybody, nor does a boy.”
In order for you to appreciate this great change and for God to
perform this miracle, it is absolutely necessary that you understand
what causes our present environment to be so unforgiving where love
is concerned, therefore let me begin by defining in a mathematical
undeniable manner what we mean exactly by the word love, otherwise
we will be unable to have a solid basis for communication.
Socrates: "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing, the rest of us become philosopher's"; hence much of the reason much of philosophy is hostile and sterile in some degree or another.
Now is it all strictly "erotic/philios", that sets the standard for marriage...no, but practically speaking it is a large part of it. Even the process of "invention", a subset of philosophy if not a philosophical endeavor in itself, is about containing chaos (rightly or wrongly) in an effort to prevent the loss of some loved one.
Interesting piece.