So the median point, allows for both extremes and neither, at the same time in different respects.
Did you ever have occasion to review Heidegger’s hermeneutical phenomenological study of boredom in this connection? I refer to this region as the Element. Here, the “extremes” that come out, are (1) being inside boredom, in the sense that the watched pot never boils, except, Heidegger gives the example of time flying at a party that is wholly a 'waste' of that time, and (2) being outside it he describes one awaiting a train. The Element is brought out through the example of a 19th century Sunday, when everything in a town is shut.
Now, as to this bunk “spelling” (or, usage or conflation of different words) controversy, at least one should admit that the notion of being “unstrung”, which is how Homer describes death, is rather a loosening as a losing. Ergo, this loosening is quite near to the issue of the obliteration of identity. Now, I’m not saying the Spelling Police should hurry up and die, naturally they do serve a necessary and helpful function at times.