janetjay wrote:I don't have that addiction myself, but have seen it before.
Is it the act of seeing others genitals go in and out of eachother that is so addicting, or is it that they pretend that person they are seeing is their partner?
None of them...please explain!
Hi JJ. Wow! People sure have ALOT to say about porn !
I don't know if you are still followinng this thread and I havnt gone through the 15pgs to see if you got your answer. But is seems the topic has gone on a tangent (as they will).
I would like to offer this:
Your question seems to assume porn addiction. I have to ask if it indeed so or are you wondering if what you have come accross if P addiction, or perhaps you are doing a study. ?
The first question must be asked: Is there a Problem?
Who does the issue center upon?
Is it the person observing the behavior or the person itself?
I submit that the causes of any addiction are incidental because if there is addiction it no longer has to do with what happened in the past.
Treating addiction from the symptoms (the past traumas or whatever) is a stop gap. Relapse is a part of This kind of treatment.
The most effective treatment is for the addict to see that indeed they are an addict, no matter what form it takes.
From there the only issue at hand is if they really are done with it. If they can see they are an addict and have not gotten absolutely fed up with it then - God help you, him or her. Its gonna suck.
Usually, though, the problem is more about the other person observing the addict. It is more about the concern and care for the addict and the codependancy thereof.
Of course I am not speaking colloquially of addiction when we are talking about obsession or other mental disurbances.
Philosphically, addiction is the fixation of the subject upon the object. It occurs when the Subject has been so depleted of its self through the seeking of self in the object. When no other solution is offered, and the object is the only route for the subject, the subject moves into 'addiction' where the self has been rejected by its own being, so oriented upon the object of truth, and thus 'reapproaches' the object withe renewed vigor and 'gets lost' in the solution of the object, which does not exist.