Why can I watch porn no problem, but get shy at scenes of affectional sex in movies?

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Arising_uk wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 3:01 pm I don't think they are related.

One is to assist masturbation the other is about intimacy. If you are having problems with the latter then maybe a counsellor would be the solution if you wish to solve it.
That makes also sense. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend, we have a healthy, intimate relationship. No embarrassment in our times of tet-de-tet. But I admit your thought was valid and in the right vein.
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-1- wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 7:56 am Is there something wrong with me?
You certainly give the impression that there's something not quite right about you but it's hard to say what exactly'
If yes, you think so, please give your regarded opinion what the heck is going on here.
I've just told you, it's hard to say what's wrong with you but I do think it's safe to work on the assumption that there is something wrong with you.
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Ok so I worked it out - as I also feel similarly about these intimate scenes in movies, in fact I tend to skip forward past the scene.

So in porn - its a lot of - "ooh yeah u like that don't you, you like that, yeah yeah yeah oo oo oo" etc.. which is rather comical. Also porn is where two people are fully consenting to the whole fuck scene.

In a movie where there is intimacy being feigned, we know these are not two consenting adults wishing to get their sexual arousal, so it can result in the viewer feeling some embarrassment\shame.

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My understanding is that the current value systems in the Anglosphere is that two people making love is obscene but someone being shot is family entertainment.

As for porn and loveless sex in general, I can see why one wouldn't find it embarrassing because it's generally mindless, mechanical and repetitive. In out in out in out up down up down up down ... no more embarrassing or exciting than seeing animals going at it on documentaries, except that the latter is more interesting.

When I was a child I saw lions having sex in a lion park. The female was chewing at a bone and the male just slipped around her and slipped it in. Throughout the mating the female did not for a moment look up from her eating or give the impression that she even noticed the "stud" at work. With the deed done the male moved a small distance away and stared into space. The female just continued eating. That was all pretty entertaining.
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High School Cheerleaders in Miami.
Maybe they're not cheerleaders.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHPLQHVUpbI

The school is probably not named, Sacred Heart.

Could be they attend a secular, government school.

The type of schooling you received could be the cause of the problem stated in the thread question.

It may help to remember that the cause of all problems is self-cherishing, which is both a realization and a teaching.
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-1- wrote:That makes also sense. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend, we have a healthy, intimate relationship. No embarrassment in our times of tet-de-tet. But I admit your thought was valid and in the right vein.
Can you watch porn at the movies with others? I couldn't.
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Walker wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 4:21 am High School Cheerleaders in Miami.
Maybe they're not cheerleaders.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHPLQHVUpbI

The school is probably not named, Sacred Heart.

Could be they attend a secular, government school.

The type of schooling you received could be the cause of the problem stated in the thread question.

It may help to remember that the cause of all problems is self-cherishing, which is both a realization and a teaching.
All cheerleading is vile (ANOTHER obnoxious 'gift' from the yanks to the rest of the planet) but I doubt if you'd mind this if they were white with tacky names like Ashlee and Dallas instead of tacky names like Taysh'ana or Shakont'aa. Lunatic yanks can't even give your children normal names.
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Arising_uk wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 5:08 pm
-1- wrote:That makes also sense. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend, we have a healthy, intimate relationship. No embarrassment in our times of tet-de-tet. But I admit your thought was valid and in the right vein.
Can you watch porn at the movies with others? I couldn't.
Same here. It is a solitary thing to do.
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-1- wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 11:53 pm

Same here. It is a solitary thing to do.
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vegetariantaxidermy wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 6:45 pm
Walker wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 4:21 am High School Cheerleaders in Miami.
Maybe they're not cheerleaders.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHPLQHVUpbI

The school is probably not named, Sacred Heart.

Could be they attend a secular, government school.

The type of schooling you received could be the cause of the problem stated in the thread question.

It may help to remember that the cause of all problems is self-cherishing, which is both a realization and a teaching.
All cheerleading is vile (ANOTHER obnoxious 'gift' from the yanks to the rest of the planet) but I doubt if you'd mind this if they were white with tacky names like Ashlee and Dallas instead of tacky names like Taysh'ana or Shakont'aa. Lunatic yanks can't even give your children normal names.
And Aussies would give their children tacky names like VegetarianTaxidermy. :lol:

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Philosophy Explorer wrote: Wed Oct 11, 2017 1:46 am And Aussies would give their children tacky names like VegetarianTaxidermy. :lol:

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"Yes, daddy, tell us again about the great cabbage drive."

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"Hold on, dad, this is Australia, not America..."

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"Wow, dad! And what happened?"

"Well, son, it took us four days to round up all the stray cabbages. Some of he cabbages were eaten by the savages. We lost a good number of heads in that drive."

"But, son, this was nothing compared to the time when I was in the outback, on a walkabout, when I was attacked, without provocation, by a peanut shrub and two potatoes! But I'll tell you that next time. In the meantime, just look at that stuffed pepper, right beside your night light... on the stand, as it prepares to devour a koala-bear... I had it stuffed after it bit your mother's head off, and I had to kill it with my scimitar and cut its belly up with my machete to get back your mom's lovely head, and carve up its stomach with my bayonet; and get the head reattached by some surge'ns in Sidney. Good night now, little one!"

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-1- wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 8:17 pm
Arising_uk wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 3:01 pm I don't think they are related.

One is to assist masturbation the other is about intimacy. If you are having problems with the latter then maybe a counsellor would be the solution if you wish to solve it.
That makes also sense. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend, we have a healthy, intimate relationship. No embarrassment in our times of tet-de-tet. But I admit your thought was valid and in the right vein.
What is that?
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vegetariantaxidermy wrote: Wed Oct 11, 2017 9:54 am
-1- wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 8:17 pm tet-de-tet.
What is that?
That? That...? That means, in a foreign language, "Be careful around here if you are a potato, because you're liable to be skinned and stuffed and put on the mantle piece as a decorative display." Some of these decorative stuffed vegetables are battery-powered, with some simple electronics that makes them say impertinent things on Internet forums over and over and over again.

-- By no means should this be read or interpreted as a threat. It is simply a jocular way of saying, "VegetarianTaxidermy, you are what you are." A yam. Are you?
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Walker wrote: Tue Oct 10, 2017 4:21 am the cause of all problems is self-cherishing, which is both a realization and a teaching.
This is especially true when one teaches the Bible by cheri-picking the topics from it.

As a self-realization, did you, Walker, not pick your own cherry, before someone else also had the opportunity to pick yours? This seems to be the pattern for all humans' sex education of modern times in western (and likely, in eastern) societies. As well as in southern and northern societies.

Maybe this is what you meant by "problem" when you talked about self-realization and self-teaching in the self-cheri department.
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Mogul flies to Europe for sex addiction rehab.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... z4vA8GQFem

How?

Since the European healers probably haven’t adapted the Clockwork Orange cure for voluntary patients, how will the experts cure the unfortunate, afflicted victim of addiction?

Perhaps sex detox, but what would that be? Lots of talk?
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