hajrafradi wrote:I have had five conversations here. Three ended up in disaster. The first one was with FlashdangerPants. S/he concluded s/he will never talk to me again. The second one was with Dubious. S/he critiqued one of my posts, I responded to his/her criticism, and s/he wrote once more in that thread, only that s/he will never talk to me again.
What is it with me that people don't ever want to talk to me? Am I a leper, or what? I really don't see how I stepped out of line in terms of terms of the use of this site.
I appreciate this was their personal choice, and they did give me reasons, but those reasons, in my book, are false. They just wanted an out, and said something that did not hold any water why they never want to speak to me again.
But I don't fault them; it is me, in me, where the fault lies. What is it that I am doing wrong?
I need a personal coach on how to word my post and responses to others.
Volunteers?
Not a personal coach. Just a few thoughts.
How must you respond? Not like this.
Here, you seem to be indulging in hyperbole - disaster indeed.
Then, if you are referencing 3 discussions it is a good idea to either include links or give tit!e and date of thread or troub!esome posts. Also the other 2, why were they any different?
With this informationn, people have the facts to consider, enabling them to judge whether an emotional appeal is justified.
Speaking for myself, I usually take or leave each thread or post as I see fit. I don't place posters in a friends or foe category.
This place is full of characters - sometimes it can get personal and sides can be taken.
This happens in real life. I don't think it helps when an appeal goes out to others about a 'they' or 'them' against a poor little me self-made mountain out of a molehill.
First, there is no 'them' not wanting to speak to you ever again.
Second, get over yourself, you hyperbolic trollop you
Finally, don't listen to advice from me or others. Know yourself !