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Don't tell yourself "Don't do that!" Tell yourself "I don't want to be the kind of person who does that."

Advocate wrote: ↑Fri Apr 15, 2022 6:57 am Don't tell yourself "Don't do that!" Tell yourself "I don't want to be the kind of person who does that."

That is a better method to implement positive change, in self and others.. and probably more sustainable longer-term, too.

Positive reinforcement.. it’s been my preferred method for a while now, when I realised the error in my negative ways.

Makes sense.

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Don't tell yourself "Don't do that!" Tell yourself "I don't want to be the kind of person who does that."
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That is a better method to implement positive change, in self and others.. and probably more sustainable longer-term, too.

Positive reinforcement.. it’s been my preferred method for a while now, when I realised the error in my negative ways.
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I believe recent research has shown more or less conclusively that avoiding bad works better than seeking good.

My idea here was to focus on a more fundamental aspect than either negative or positive consequences - who you believe you "really" are.

And as long as we keep dedicating ourselves to the good of Future Us, things automagically keep getting better.

Advocate wrote: ↑Sun May 08, 2022 6:26 pm I believe recent research has shown more or less conclusively that avoiding bad works better than seeking good.

My idea here was to focus on a more fundamental aspect than either negative or positive consequences - who you believe you "really" are.

And as long as we keep dedicating ourselves to the good of Future Us, things automagically keep getting better.

Automagically? lol

I have found that adopting a motivational narrative of thoughts and feels, is also beneficial for Self.

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a motivational narrative of thoughts and feels
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Will you expand on that?