reasonvemotion wrote:For the majority of us, love is the one part of our lives we believe happens to us solely by chance.
For years passion was not considered a solid basis for marriage until recently.
Here we must exercise caution. When two people instantly fall in love, they are in love with an idealised concept of each other, which eventually, nearly always, ends in disaster.
How many of us would put in the effort needed to keep a relationship going when one person cheats on the other?
What about physical attraction. Yes. It is important, but too much of a good thing, can turn into a bad thing and instead of love it is lust. I chuckle here as some may disagree vehemently with this.
Does it make sense to enter into an aranged marriage where both parties can learn to love each other gradually and travel on solid ground.
I dont believe we have one person only for us. Our soulmate. That is for the poet and his/her muse.
Should we wait around hoping for our true love to happen upon us.
Should we use our common sense and plan for it, like we plan for a career, or anything else, reject the fairytale aspect of it.
Some are quite content without it.
Together with your opening post title you have raised several other questions here as well and raised some good points. I will just answer generally and here it is -
It is said that if that initial spark is not there, it will not be there later on regarding romantic love.
If someone considers arranged marriage seeing other cultures, thinking that perhaps it might be better, then my advice is for that culture because it might be an accepted thing, it may not work out for you, so follow your heart.
It is said that most marriages eventually turn out to be one kind of a business proposition or another.
Romantic love does not happen with time, it is immediate.
The poet writes from the heart, and the heart rules, so there might be such a thing as soulmate, but somewhere up above in Heaven or higher Heavens. Where we see crushes, infatuations, attractions, loves etc., but not true love, it is because we ourselves are not capable of truly loving yet, although we may think otherwise of ourselves.
I don't think there is need to wait for true love to happen for it may not happen, so we should just make-do with someone we like or love, and yet, this is not to say that someone do that, for if they would like to wait they can of course, the point being that they would be waiting perhaps forever in this life.
Do you mean plan for marriage or love or both? Well whatever. I guess it would be the sensible thing to do to plan for it, otherwise what do you do, live without marriage?
Love may not be crucial to marriage, liking may be enough. But liking should be there.
If with physical attraction caring, concern, affection is not there, then it is more towards lust, but if caring, concern and affection is there then it is love.
Love does not happen by chance, it is because our minds meet for there being common ground. When minds stop meeting, love is out. When minds meet as in vastly, I think that is true love.
Passion can be short term and this does not mean it is not important of course for it is important, love is long-term, true love is forever in a certain lifetime.
I think for true love we need a meeting of the minds - which is like the meeting of the hearts, we need genuine caring, concern, affection, living in truth and not in lies, cheating, deceit, malpractice nor scam. For true love we need to be true to ourselves and others always, we need to be an open book, we need to be principled, ethical, morally good, having a moral code of ethics in us, no vices and no wickedness in us. We need to be holy. True love is a clean thing. I think with love and true love, the two just love, truly love respectively. So, if we feel not loved, or truly loved then we should believe that and accept that, and vice-versa. If something holds us away from showing love to someone or holds someone away from showing love to us, then we must believe that that is not love but a crush, infatuation, something that will pass.