Lacewing wrote:ken wrote:For what its worth, which is probably nothing, I did not see mick doing anything other than just pointing out a view, which they have. I did not see an attacking of any person, but rather just pointing out a behavior.
Well, that's interesting, Ken. Here's how I saw it: My opening post was NOT focused on MY complaints, it was focused on trying to understand what makes people behave the way they do. So Mickthink's opinion that I should stop complaining does not resonate with my intention for the thread. I admitted my involvement in feeding certain behaviors. Mickthinks told me to "try harder". What the fuck? That appeared to me, like an ego trying to reprimand another as if Mickthinks is pretending to be in some sort of superior position.
Maybe I'm wrong... but I usually have a pretty good sense about people and their behaviors.
The "issue" of this thread is about something many of us have seen and commented on. So lecturing ME on how to deal with it, seems like little more than someone's arrogant trip.
I was only expressing what I previously saw, but, after re-reading mick's quote that you were directly responding to, now I see that mick was doing something else, by telling you what to do, so I apologize for My view.
If I may I would like to make two other comments:
It appears this post was, i think, regarding 'two people? in particular,' but asking others why these two people behave the way they do, so you could better understand. I gave My reason why I do crazy-ass attention-seeking stuff and the truth is I can only really speak for me, and no other person, just like only those two people could explain the
real reason why they each mis/behave the way they do. However, based on previous experiences you ain't ever going to get any thing sensible from them. You are not going to get a reasonable, if any, response from them. Other people would like to and can provide some insight into then and others, but they can not provide the accurate and real reasons and answers for why some other people do what they do.
The other comment is:
You wrote that your opening post was focused on trying to understand what makes people behave the way they do. Then, you also wrote, "But I usually have a pretty good sense about people and their behaviors." Obviously there is a slight contradiction there, which is of no great importance nor concern, but what I found, completely unintentionally, in helping Me to understand what makes all people behave the way they do, was concentrating on My self only. I did this by asking the same sort of question you did, and then answering it myself. I was trying to understand why I did what I did do. This questioning and very openly and extremely honestly answering those questions about myself only, led to the uncovering of the fundamental reason why all people do what they do. And, that reason leads to the answer to the real, true and correct answer for all people.
Now this last sentence probably appears to be contradictory to the last sentence of My previous comment, but it is not.
Picking up on what others may not notice, or subliminally and/or unconsciously miss, and then doing the "same" sort of thing, so that others will hopefully notice My "wrong" doing and challenge and question Me about it, is just another one of My "crazy-ass, attention-seeker" ways.
It is not the best way to behave I know, but I do not, yet, know how to express succinctly or accurately.