chaz wyman wrote:
P - persecutor
V - victim
R - rescuer
The situation you think you are in does not fit the model you propose for it.
Models ought to be the consequence of a situation; situations are not to be shoe-horned into the situation.[/quote]
Trinagles do not fit well into circles.
By trying to impose a model on the situation are you doing nothing more than monkey-see, monkey-do. You are not in a state of understanding but in a state of mimicry.
Interesting question: Modelling was the method of learning for a very long time, and still is: at what point (sequentially or by date BC) did training and punishment begin?
You would do better to accept that you tried one on and you have be exposed as a fraud.
You might be very capable at a range of intelligence tests, but that does not give you the right or the ability to fool anyone.
I have a theory...
To sum it up quick, since we know that when others tringulate us it's a fear response, it's really ok if people express their jackal tics, to get them out, then we can move on without anxiety. We don't feel hurt ourselves because we understand they were motivated by esteem needs, needs for acceptance, communication, etc.
There seems to be a lot of confusion and contradiction in your posts.
That's called learning. It's required actually.
I would guess that it is used to mask a lot of pain and anguish.
I hope this is nothing more than the usual teenage angst, and not indicative of some more profound reaction to serious events or trauma in your life. As I would not wish any pain on one so young.
Thanks for your sympathy Grandfather. In NVC and also in C&S
we don't really say like 'this is serious', 'this is grave'; because all needs are equal; there is no needs/wants distinction; just "desire".