To be honest, I'd never heard of 'emotional incest' before - and had to go look it up. Seems to relate more to adult-child relationships eg where a female/male child assumes the adult emotional role of wife/husband to a father/mother. I guess there is an amount of manipulation involved where it might not even be obvious to those involved.
yeah i looked it up as well, it does seem to relate more to adult child relationships
but it basically amounts to a relationship that has all the features of incest without the actual you know sex
If you are a twin, then I suppose you have a greater closeness and bond ? And like any other relationship this could be open to certain emotional dependencies which might need boundaries laid down. The 'If you really love me, you would...' is one example. However, you give the impression that you can deal with this kind of pressure.
my brother and i are very close
we are told that as babies we would scream till we are blue in the face and then continue screaming if we were out of sight of each other
as children if one of us was too sick to go to school the other would just totally refuse to go
my father is not one to let children win a battle of wills but we won that one
we held hands way past the point where most siblings hold hands - well into adolescence, until other kids starting making fun of us
even now if we are not in school or our neighbourhood we will often hold hands when we are out
and we dont like being away from each other - although i no longer get hysterics of we are away from each other for more than a day
some grown ups think that we dont have enough boundaries between us
our parents dont want us getting 'too affectionate' with each other when thereis company - i mean some grownups are so dirty minded it is not even funny
but we never do the 'if you loved me you'd do x' thing
anyway the shrink sees that our emotional involvement with each other is unhealthy
I hope that before dismissing the 'psychobabble', your psychiatrist can be held to account for this 'diagnosis'; that is, explain the reasons for it - what have you 'said', what has s/he 'heard'... ie what/where is the 'evidence'.
to be fair, the shrink helped me get past the hysterics if my brother is missing for a few hours so on further thought i am not going to just give up on the whole going to the shrink every two weeks thing